Learning to say NO

Posted by Paige Oxlaj on Monday, July 9, 2012 Under: self-esteem
The hardest word to say is often the word we need to say the most. "No." It's a simple two letter word that many of us fail to use. It's a word that sets boundaries and rules in our lives. Yet so often, we say "yes" when our heart says "no."  And when we do actually invoke our boundary setting power word, we feel guilty. 

I am very guilty of this. I often say yes out of guilt or responsibility, but each time I do it my heart feels sick and I find myself full of regret. This regret eats at me and I find myself feeling resentful toward the people I said yes to or I procrastinate trying to put off the activity I reluctantly agreed to do.

So for the next few months, I have decided to only say "yes" when I want to and to eliminate any guilt I feel about saying "no". I am looking forward to seeing the positive changes that clear boundaries make in my life and how I can truly commit to and enjoy the times I say "yes."

I encourage you to also try the "no" experiment. I would love to hear how that one two letter word transforms your life.

In : self-esteem 

Tags: no  boundaries  guilt  responsibilty  self-esteem 
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